Hello everyone! Yasmin here! This month I’m focusing on an issue that I have also experienced. Anxiety is something we all may have encountered at different walks of our life. Some of this anxiety can be caused by change, heartbreak, loss, worry and the list goes on. Everyone’s pain and anxiety caused is individual to them. In addition to this, July 2018 marks two important events that can contribute to anxiety…The Mercury retrograde and the powerful lunar eclipse. Nonetheless, I am going to share a few habitual changes to help beat anxiety. If you add enough of these positive habits, you will hopefully notice anxiety decrease- even managing it much better.
You do not need to be sitting cross-legged and meditating to focus on breathing. Focus on your breath anytime or anywhere you are. Sometimes, when anxiety, worry or anguish takes over your mind, your breathing goes into a frenzy causing further distress. Amidst this chaos, think of nothing but your breath, inhale very slowly through your nose and exhale deeply through your mouth. This will bring a feeling of a ‘release’ and almost a sigh of relief. Repeat this five times and following this, just breathe in and out of your nose slowly. This in turn can calm your heart beat down and balance blood pressure.
Sit down, take a moment and pour room temperature water into a glass. Aim for about 500ml at least. Sip slowly, think about what is bothering you and with each sip mentally say ‘let it go’. This is simply mental conditioning, it will calm you down.
As well as the physical benefits, the mental benefits are fantastic. The release of happy hormones! Go for a jog/run, walk, work out at the gym, yoga, a home workout, some weights- anything! By moving your body, you can release stress and fumes from anger even.
There are different types of yoga you can try. Your mind has to focus and almost form a meditative state when practising challenging yoga poses. This can be a sense of distraction and almost focusing good energy on your yoga practise. I recommend Hatha Yoga, Vinayasa Yoga and also Bikram Yoga. I have personally found all of them physically and mentally challenge me. Before you begin your yoga, set an intention for your practise, what would you like to focus your energy on?
Affirmations can purify our thoughts, encourage positive law of attraction and increase confidence. It is seeing light at the end of the tunnel.
- I am complete
- I am love
- I trust that everything will be okay
- I have faith that my situation will change
- I eat well, I exercise regularly, I am healthy
- I am confident, my financial situation will improve
- I am beautiful and I am grateful for (list a feature you love)
- I forgive myself for the past
- I can achieve anything I set my mind too
- I will have a good week ahead of me
You can write down your affirmations and then say them out loud. Maybe you could start off with 3 and make a mental note on your commute to work, eat breakfast or on your lunch break.
Just 5 minutes or if you can more. Close your eyes and each time a thought comes into your mind, throw it away. Focus on stillness, your breath, your healthy body. Focus on breathing as mentioned previously in the article too. This is your time to just clear your mind and eliminate any negative thoughts. With continued meditation, you can find clarity.
Try Colouring or Art
Do you remember as children painting, going crazy with colour and drawing pictures? I definitely do. You get adult colouring books which can be extremely therapeutic! If not, release the inner child in you and purchase some paint points and draw. Sometimes conveying emotion through art helps!
Essential oils are calming and can bring peace to the heart and mind. Particularly, lavender is my favourite for calming me down and reducing my stress. Maybe add a few drops to your pillow and just relax! Lavender also helps
I also have discovered a well-being section on www.cultbeauty.com which I am going to be purchasing! It is a brand called ‘Therapie’ and they have some great products for de-stressing, relaxation and well being.
Here is a link to a particular product that has caught my eye:
‘For anyone with a ridiculous ‘to do’ list, Therapie’s Crystal Clear Smelling Salts help you order your thoughts and recover your ‘get up and go’. The pure salt crystals are soaked with a liquid blend of lemon myrtle (to reduce hypertension), may chang (to restore peace of mind and assist self-expression), lavender (to release ‘blocked’ emotions), frankincense (to cleanse and purify emotional energy), fir needle (to expand perspective) and cajeput (to brighten your disposition), and help to streamline your thought processes and resolve those daily problems without succumbing to stress. These are also laced with amethyst and quartz chips, fortified with Reiki. Simply inhale’
Also this ‘Calm Balm’
‘This beautiful balm is a salve for the senses – dispelling stresses and restoring peace of mind with a few inhalations. With an opening ‘head’ of lavender, bergamot and sweet marjoram – to inspire joy and alleviate tension – this evolves to a centre of soothing neroli, fragonia (to inspire mental clarity) and calming bay. The mellow base consists of frankincense, sandalwood and vetiver, laced with a crystal infusion of larimar – to stabilise emotions and prevent you feeling overwhelmed. Just apply the soft, sensuous balm (a blend of oils and plant butters) to areas of tension, then breathe deeply to establish a reassuring ‘blanket’ between you and the pressures of modern life.’
Music can definitely uplift your mood and certain music can calm nerves of anxiety. Whether this be meditation music, prayers or even sounds of the ocean. Have a rummage on your Spotify or iTunes and make it a habit to tune in when feeling anxious
I hope the above tips help you all,
Until next time… With love from Yasmin x
Control Your Subconscious Mind – 5 Changes You Can Make Today
We will be looking at 5 changes that you can make today in order to control your subconscious mind. This will help to achieve everything you truly desire, whether this is about your dream job or it may be something as simple as you wanting to be happy.
Two-thirds of the population believes a myth that has been propagated for over a century: that we use only 10 percent of our brains. However, what we do know is that our subconscious mind runs and controls almost everything that we do.
What Is Your Subconscious Mind?
All thought generated in the mind consists of your conscious and subconscious. Your conscious mind is your objective or thinking mind. It has no memory and it can only hold one thought at a time.
The subconscious mind is a powerful secondary system which runs everything in your life. This is a data bank of everything which consists of your beliefs, experiences, memories and skills. Whenever you have ever had an idea, an emotion or a memory from the past, this is the communication from your subconscious mind to the conscious mind.
“Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality” — Earl Nightingale
Your subconscious mind processes everything and it would only pass the information which is relevant for you at that moment in time. Your conscious mind, is the means in which the subconscious receives its information. Your mind works to create or bring into the physical world your “truth” or “reality” based on your individual beliefs, perceptions and experiences.
What Happens When You Have A Thought?
When you have a thought, it is first analysed by your conscious mind. The conscious mind then attaches an emotion to the thought based on its interpretation. This then establishes a belief and is stored into the subconscious mind as “your truth”.
This “truth” can then be recalled and assessed in the future by the conscious mind to support or discredit future thoughts by the conscious mind.
For example, when you are lying in bed late at night and hear something go “bump”, if you let your thoughts and imagination wander to all the horrible things that might happen, then your subconscious will throw up the feelings, emotions, and memories of past events that you’ve associated with those thoughts. It is your subconscious’s way of protecting you and preparing you for fight or flight in those situations. On the other hand, if you consciously tell yourself and direct your focus to more rational, calming thoughts, then the feelings will subside or disappear.
Now, lets look at how to control your subconscious mind.
1. Observe Your Thoughts
In order to control your subconscious mind, it is important to first observe your thought process and see which thoughts are generating an emotional response within you. You must imminently try and stop negatives thoughts as they appear and not allow them to become subjective by giving them a feeling.
It is possible that empowering your subconscious mind with negative thoughts, can have a very dangerous, harmful affect on your mind. The subconscious mind will begin to work against you. This includes emotions and thoughts relating to revenge, envy and blame. These thoughts will train the subconscious mind to either take comments very personally, constantly compare yourself to others or blaming others for difficulties within your life.
Whereas with positive thoughts, the opposite will occur. You should permeate the feeling and repeat the thoughts within your mind and your subconscious mind will get to work bringing the means and resources to maintain that feeling.
2. Ask Yourself Quality Questions
Asking yourself good/challenging questions allows your subconscious mind to make connections and gives your mind something to do. It is also important to focus on the question itself which will make a big difference.
If you were to ask yourself “how can I stop feeling tired all the time?”, this would constitute a negative question and the focus of the question is that you are feeling tired and therefore the resulting thoughts and feelings will reflect this focus.
If you were to however ask yourself “How can I re-energise myself this week?”, the focus is positive and is focused on re-energising. By including a specific time frame you are also setting nice manageable parameters for your subconscious to adhere to.
3. Understand The Importance of Affirmations
Saying positive affirmations to yourself is a great way to control your subconscious mind. A consistent habit of positive “self-talk” will eventually work its way into your subconscious, allowing these thoughts to take over. The same way in which negative self-talk can put you down or attract negative thoughts throughout your day, positive affirmations will attract positive thoughts into your subconscious.
The subconscious mind plays a big role in how we behave and experience reality. If you want to have more control over your life, you need to learn to acknowledge this rather than fear it.
It is important that you come up with your own affirmations or to read affirmations which invoke a positive emotional response. Affirmations must contain positive words, they should be in the present tense (even if you are still not there yet) and it has to be relevant to a specific situation allowing you to think about the things you wish to achieve.
Once you have come up with a set of affirmations, you need to use them daily (as a minimum) in order for them to be effective. Saying your affirmations at night until you drift off has been very powerful as it reaches the subconscious mind more readily. Being able to take an affirmation into the sleep state will continue to influence the subconscious mind during your sleep.
4. Create A Vision Board
A vision board is a powerful tool which allows you to manifest your life’s desires. This is a board consisting of a collage of pictures and words which represent what you are going to achieve or what you wish to achieve. This works exceptionally well if you have made your vision board with more than just pictures but also by connecting emotions to your visions.
In the same way that you would set up your goals for the future, the vision board will allow you to subconsciously increase the desire to achieve that goal. Without a strong desire, you will settle for less. This is why most people are not living their dreams. This would also include thinking about what sounds, smells and sights are associated with a particular aspect of your visions. It is also very important to envision yourself having already achieved your vision.
The Vision Board should also be placed in a location where you are likely to see it first thing in the morning and the last thing before you go to sleep.
One of the biggest benefits from having a vision board is that there are no restrictions and the sky is the limit. You can be, do or have anything that you want to. You are not bound by the restrictions of your physical world and you are free to think and want whatever you wish. The ability to have the power to wish for anything will make you unleash your inner greatness.
5. Identify Your Resistance
When your subconscious mind holds you back from pursuing something that you love or something you know you deserve, it is because you are holding a conflicting belief about it.
It is important that you identify with what this resistance is and question why you are holding yourself back from it. You may believe that you are not ready for the job or you do not meet the exact criteria that the employers are looking for. It is at this stage that you are becoming a barrier to your own progression. By attaching these emotions, you are training your subconscious mind to become a barrier and a resistance to moving forward as these fears relating to self-worth will continue to arise at every opportunity given.
We have to learn to program our subconscious mind so we can block out the negative thoughts in order to encourage the acceptance of positive affirmations. We are able to achieve mental and emotional stability by casting aside our ego and opening ourselves to wonders which we can achieve by embracing our subconscious mind.
I would like to end with sharing a poem which I read every morning that has helped me in the past with my career and has continued to motivate me daily. The name of the poem is Invictus by William Ernest Henley.
“Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be.
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance.
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears.
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul”
This poem was also very important to Nelson Mandela during his time in prison. Whenever Mandela lost courage or felt like giving up, he would recite this poem and it would give him what he needed to keep going.
Comment below and let me know which of these changes you have made and what result it has made to your daily life or in achieving what you desire.
10 Mental Life Hacks For Instant Positive Results
10 little tips and tricks to uplift your day and planning ahead for positive results
A happy face is the prettiest face. By forcing yourself to smile even in the darkest moments will not only be infectious to someone else but eventually your smile will be a natural one. You are already training your mind to be happy and positive by doing this. For example, summer in London is extremely sweltering on tubes and trains! (My fellow commuters will understand this)- smile at someone, make their day. Smile and realise the train journey will eventually be over and the heat and difficult time WILL pass. I guess some unfortunate events in life are similar to a bad train journey! You feel it won’t end, but it will.
Meditation is clearing and clarifying the mind. The sense of peace post-meditation is so beautiful. After a busy day, take time for yourself to be grounded and aware. If you have not ever meditated before then I recommend the following:
- Put a timer on your phone for 2 minutes
- Sit cross legged or whatever position is comfortable to you
- Try sit on the floor to ground yourself to the earth
- Close your eyes and each time a thought pops up, throw it away mentally and focus on something like your breath, an imaginary waterfall or perhaps just repeating ‘OM’
- Set an intention for your meditation- what are you trying to reflect on?
- It is normal to feel a little restless, but stick with it. You may see flashing lights and colours or a since of elevation.
- After 2 minutes you should hopefully feel less anxiety and can build up to more time as you go forward
Learn to Accept
Accepting? We often fail to accept decisions, destiny, life, break ups and so on. This can lead to unhappiness, dissatisfaction and remaining tangled in the past. However big or small the situation, put yourself in the other person’s shoes or try to re-imagine the situation from a neutral perspective. Try to console yourself with this. When you accept what has happened and its result, mentally you will be able to let go. If you can’t let go, let it be…Just don’t dwell on it.
Be your own biggest fan! Before you sleep at night, shower yourself with 5 compliments. What have you achieved today that you are proud of? It can be the smallest thing. Perhaps you woke up earlier than usual, had a positive day or saved some money. Then focus on your physical features. ‘I have great skin’, ‘My hair looks beautiful’. Say these things out loud to yourself. What makes you unique and powerful is that there is only ONE of you. Never forget that. That’s your strength forever.
Set an Intention for Your Day
When you wake up in the morning, set an intention for your day. This could be the aim to have a day where you don’t think about a negative situation or past event in your life. Or you could aim to walk 10,000 steps. Set an intention and focus on that goal. This allows you to adapt your mind-set to what YOU want and your plan to achieve it.
Be grateful for everything happening around you. Everything happens for a reason and by showing gratitude you appreciate what you have in your life. For example, I am grateful for my earnings and job, I am grateful for my family who love me conditionally, I am grateful for the person who gave me a seat on the tube as I had a heavy bag. A great read is ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrne. The laws of attraction and gratitude can shift negativity away and allow for abundance and great amounts of change in your life and relationships.
You Can Only Try Your Best
You can only try your very best and that is OKAY! We are often too hard on ourselves and constantly try to achieve perfection. Perfection in my view is in the eye of the beholder. Once you know you have tried and done your best- let the rest be. By worrying and being hard on yourself, you only cause stress on your mind and body.
Pay Attention to Your Body
No matter how ‘busy’ you get, pay attention to what your body needs and any warning signs. For example, if you are noticing excessive headaches, before you reach for painkillers…have you drank enough water? Are you worried about something? Tend to your own needs like you are your own best friend. Excess cortisol hormone from stress can play havoc in your body and even cause spots. Take a moment and reflect on what is the root cause.
Never give up. Believe in you and have faith in your belief. This will make you mentally stronger, focused and headstrong in all your trials and tribulations. When you allow faith to shatter, you lose hope and allow negative thoughts to enter. Your faith can be in the universe, in god or for a religious belief. We get tested in life and what pulls us through is the faith. Faith is your light out of the dark tunnel. Don’t let anyone shatter this pious belief no matter what happens.
Listen to Meditation Music/ Nature Music
When you feel stressed/ anxious or just unsettled, you can listen to sounds of nature or peaceful meditation music. Instruments like the flute, santur and piano are extremely soothing and produce positive vibrations and energy. Sounds of the ocean and birds also can make you feel like a huge burden or negativity is lifting. Just be present in the moment. I found the simplest instrumental track on YouTube and I’m sure you can too! Listen to it before you sleep or perhaps while you have your breakfast in the morning.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cnfj6QCGLyA – Relaxing piano and flute music
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDXHcR5AL6E – Morning relaxation
Healing, Love and Self-Discovery
Hi everyone, my name is Yasmin and I go by the name of @greengoddessdiaries on Instagram. You can find healthy eating, fitness, wellness and sparks of me on there. When my childhood friend (founder of Enigma) asked me to be an author I was honoured. I hope you all enjoy my thoughts on paper.
Healing and Love
The heart is like this magic chamber that holds our feelings and aspirations, it beats to keep us alive and love is felt from the heart…Love keeps us alive. But what happens when your heart breaks and it is wounded, shattered and crushed? There is a wound that is going to cause many physiological issues often transcending into physical problems.
Healing is often a unique process for everyone and when you have experienced heartbreak, one needs all the support, courage and strength possible.
Don’t worry, this is a road to self-discovery and more love.
Faith is your foundation to this journey of healing. If you are a believer in God then put your faith into him that there is a plan and this heartbreak has happened for the best. If you don’t believe in God or aren’t religious then trust the Universe. The universe’s vibrations will bring you what is yours and show you a lot of colours in this journey. Faith is the belief that your situation will improve, you will heal, you will love again and you will be laughing uncontrollably again. Just don’t give up. I recommend taking each day as it comes but begin and end your day with strong faith no matter what is going on around you.
Praying & Meditation
Praying is when you talk to god or any supreme force you may believe in. This internal communication built faith and courage for me and really kept my mind-set still. Meditation on the other hand clears clutter from the mind and may even allow more realisations. One way to begin meditation is to set a timer of perhaps 5 minutes where you can light a candle, close your eyes and every time a thought comes in to your mind, learn to control it and eliminate it
You have your faith that you constantly carry, now make a change to your lifestyle. This could be the smallest thing! For example, take up a hobby, exercise regime or sport. Or you could change your hair, your weekends could involve more time with friends if you didn’t before. This change will shift the focus of the mind. It can be anything…
Stress is this invisible disease that will eventually affect you physically, we don’t sometimes realise how much pressure we are putting on our neurological system when stressing. Some may experience stomach aches, migraines and even skin problems. Having gone through excessive stress myself, I understand the importance of controlling this factor. Lavender oil and Ayurvedic Ashwagandha help calm the nervous system and help you focus. One tip is putting a few drops of this oil when you sleep and taking Pukka Ashwagandha tablets in the morning. You will feel energised and revitalised.
Move your body
This is a perfect opportunity to take extra care of yourself. Don’t let yourself go as this will make you feel worse in the long run. Perhaps start a new exercise regime which includes yoga. The endorphins of exercise and yoga will be beneficial for mind, body and soul. For example, Bikram yoga is hatha yoga in a heated room which is fantastic for detoxifying the body, improving fitness, flexibility and enhancing mood and focus. Join a gym, join ClassPass or even find YouTube workout videos! Just move your body.
Before you sleep each night, make a list of 5 things you are grateful for in your life. For example, I am grateful for my delicious dinner, thank you. Or, I am grateful for another day alive and healthy, thank you. This tiny daily acknowledgment will in time make you realise how many things in your life you should still be grateful and thankful for.
The controversial ones- throw throw throw
This may be completely up to you individually, however in time collate any pictures or memories of that heartbreak, and store them in a box out of sight and when you are ready throw it away or burn it. Personally, I felt a huge weight lifted off my mind and was ready to embrace a new beginning. Another way to release feelings and frustration is to write a letter with everything you feel towards your former partner and explain how you feel. The only catch is you do not send this letter! Throw it away.
Please don’t feel lonely, spend lots of important quality time with your family and friends. Do something fun! Being surrounded by people who love you and care for you will make you feel supported and more positive. Make it a habit to arrange something social, plan a holiday or trip and get out to places you haven’t been or try new food you haven’t experienced.
One of the worst things you can do is keeping your pain and feelings to yourself. It will deepen the wound you are already carrying. Try to confide in someone you trust and explain your feelings and just let it out. By expressing how you feel, it will allow you to release your sadness and connect you to your loved one. Talking is great. Lots of it! It is not a shameful thing to seek help at all and if counselling or spiritual guidance through a medium is what you need- take that step.
On a final note…Amidst your healing process, try to forgive your former partner and accept the situation. This may come later in time, but think about it. Holding on to toxic thoughts, memories and situations will only attract more negativity and brew hatred in your heart. By making peace with your past, you cut the cord and I promise you, you will feel better.
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